I feel everything leaving my control. I am losing control, everything is slipping out from my hands. I feel like i'm trying to hold on to sand but it just keeps slipping through my fingers no matter how hard i try. The harder i grip to hold tighter, the more it slips right out of my hands through my fingers.
Is this suppose to be some sort of revelation? I was typing that with such frustration and started to have this mental picture of holding sand in my hands. It is so true, the harder or tighter you try to grip the more it slips right out through your fingers but if you hold it loosely it will stay, not fully, but it will stay. You are able to hold more sand when you are less anxious about losing it. Does this apply to people as well?
If i try to hold someone so tight, i might end up suffocating them, and they will run for the hills once they get the chance. If i hold securely enough that they know i'm always there but not too tight they will stay and not slip though. There is also more room to hold more because my hands would be more spread out rather than gripped. Gripped means there is less space.
Enough of this analogy stuff. I need to vent and this is right now is the only portal i am able to do that. I can;t talk to people, because people don't want to speak to me. Highly doubt will even want to speak to me. Never does anyway. All i want to hear is literally just those couple of things. Am i wrong? I don't think so. Is there anything wrong with telling someone they did a good job at the end of project or presentation. Yes they may know you are proud of them but there is nothing wrong with saying it. There is nothing wrong with wanting to hear it either! If a child wants to hear those type of praises from a parent, what makes me so different? Why am i not entitled to hear those same praises as well? Do i not deserve them? Am i just suppose to know and not wait or want to hear them? I'm human too! I have feelings too and right now my are hurt.
I just feel like crying right now. I really feel like i'm all alone and no one understands me. No one gets me or how i'm feeling right now. I feel alone, i feel deserted. I feel unwanted....unloved....
Tuesday, December 04, 2012
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Questions?
Who's to blame for a child's mistakes? parents or the child himself? Guess it kind of goes back to the whole - which came first the chicken or the egg?
Both sides need to be examined and given thought. One can't solely be at fault while the other goes scott-free. It just doesn't work that way. Never has and never will. It just doesn't seem fair to judge only one side, or to even judge based on such a question. By default i know it would be most likely that the parent would be blamed. But why?
Parents are the ones who teach, nurture and raise the child. Till today i believe in this saying:
The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world
Again, it is the parent or the caregiver who raises the child; develops them. However, now we need to move into a more practical mindset. Media! Social media, commercial media, all forms of media are to be blamed for the development of a child as well.
Are parent's to blame? Yes! Should we blame the child as well? Yes. Children make themselves susceptible to all forms of influence and the worse is the media and peers! It is the role of the parent to help filter that influence. But again, it is also up to the child to be comfortable enough to go to the parents and tell them about the pressures they face and seek advice from them. But which child does that nowadays? Near to none.
Somehow i do feel that maybe, just maybe, i should not say too much about who is to blame or who is not to blame since i don't exactly have any children. I do hope that when i do have kids, i and my husband will be able to nurture them in such a manner where they will feel comfortable enough to come to either of us with their problems. I do know that regardless, they will still seek advice from their friends and peers, but i just hope and pray they don't go to the internet for answers. That is officially the worst place to go looking for advice. Sadly enough, we live in a GOOGLE age and it's only going to get worse.
I mean think about it, children know how to use GOOGLE before they learn how to read, write or even walk..!! Sigh.
In my opinion and, also since this is my blog where my thoughts get penned down, i still say that both parties are to blame, but i will give it a ratio of 7:3 - Parent : Child
You can agree or disagree, i rather agree to disagree. Makes life a better more colorful place
Both sides need to be examined and given thought. One can't solely be at fault while the other goes scott-free. It just doesn't work that way. Never has and never will. It just doesn't seem fair to judge only one side, or to even judge based on such a question. By default i know it would be most likely that the parent would be blamed. But why?
Parents are the ones who teach, nurture and raise the child. Till today i believe in this saying:
The hand that rocks the cradle, rules the world
Again, it is the parent or the caregiver who raises the child; develops them. However, now we need to move into a more practical mindset. Media! Social media, commercial media, all forms of media are to be blamed for the development of a child as well.
Are parent's to blame? Yes! Should we blame the child as well? Yes. Children make themselves susceptible to all forms of influence and the worse is the media and peers! It is the role of the parent to help filter that influence. But again, it is also up to the child to be comfortable enough to go to the parents and tell them about the pressures they face and seek advice from them. But which child does that nowadays? Near to none.
Somehow i do feel that maybe, just maybe, i should not say too much about who is to blame or who is not to blame since i don't exactly have any children. I do hope that when i do have kids, i and my husband will be able to nurture them in such a manner where they will feel comfortable enough to come to either of us with their problems. I do know that regardless, they will still seek advice from their friends and peers, but i just hope and pray they don't go to the internet for answers. That is officially the worst place to go looking for advice. Sadly enough, we live in a GOOGLE age and it's only going to get worse.
I mean think about it, children know how to use GOOGLE before they learn how to read, write or even walk..!! Sigh.
In my opinion and, also since this is my blog where my thoughts get penned down, i still say that both parties are to blame, but i will give it a ratio of 7:3 - Parent : Child
You can agree or disagree, i rather agree to disagree. Makes life a better more colorful place
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