Monday, April 19, 2021

Changi

Ever woke up with bruises before and had no clue where they came from? Sometimes they hurt when you press them and sometimes they don't. 

Recently, I have been waking with bruises, not daily, just randomly but a little more frequent then previously. When my kids were younger, like, babies then yeah it was common getting kicked or punched by them when they slept. Now not so much, yet still happens once in a while. 

It does freak me out a little because it just reminds me of the worse and scariest experience I ever had in my life. Let me take you back and tell the story here.

Back in Sep 2010 my office moved from Pasir Panjang to Changi. At the time it didn't really seem like a great option but when we physically went down and saw the new office and facilities we were happy. I mean it was bigger and better, way better than the previous office/workshop. 

After moving, there was a security guard there who would always tell us these stories about what she would hear or feel. We listened but never really did believe, guess you could say we were hardcore skeptics. Me being a Christian always felt and thought that I would never have any form or type of experience but man was I wrong. So wrong!

When I was younger I loved, LOVED watching scary movies and shows. Nothing to extreme for a child though but as I got older, the scare factor was increased. It was a normal thing in my family, it's just like everyone in my family, mom, dad and sister all loved scary movies and shows. Till today we still prefer watching scary, horror, ghost movies. It's like a past-time favorite or something now.

Anyways, back to the story. I did have some prior experiences of seeing things but I never did associate it with being able to "see" ghost or other beings. Let alone having the ability to see or feel. As a disclaimer, just let me be clear. What I see is basically a normal looking person, nothing gory or awful. Because of this, I not once thought of it as an ability, I figured I was either actually seeing a real physical person  or speaking to one. But I found out later that I tend to come off weird by talking to myself or staring off into space.

Well working in the medical industry and moving in and out of all the hospitals here, plus the various disciplines, I will say after talking to colleagues, friends and family - I experienced a ton of stuff but didn't realize it at the time. At least those times didn't scare me, this one occurrence actually scared the living day-lights out of me.

So we moved into this new office/workshop back in Sep 2010, at first it was nice. We heard stories from the security guard but we thought she was just easy to spook. There were instances of something "tapping" the window next to my colleagues desk, but it was dismissed as little pebbles or stones being "kicked-up" by the container trucks that were moving in and out of the loading bay area for loading/unloading. Bear in mind, our office/workshop was together with our warehouse. Not our main office because rental is too expensive for the amount of space we need for the workshop area to test and repair the machines, so warehouse rental was cheaper and really out in no mans land.

We would work late, like 11pm-1am or 2am kind of thing because we moved in the middle of an FCA at the time. Two major FCAs were happening simultaneously during this move. Door knob would rattle and we would just be like, or the security guard is just checking on us. It the door wasn't locked they would sometimes open the door to check if anyone was still around so it didn't see odd to us at first.

What seemed weird to me, was the amount of baby cockroaches in the toilet. Bad enough it was a common, shared toilet, so having cockroaches and colleagues who were scared made me have to go in and either kill them or wash them down the drain. Hated it!!

Thought that was weird, because they would come out mostly at night but then I figured it was probably because it was quiet so they figured it was safe to come out and explore?

I did hear rumors about cockroaches signifying that there were spirits nearby, but it needed to be a large numbers. For some reason I did not think seeing like 10-15 cockroaches equated to a large number.
This went on for sometime and no one thought much of it and we just continued working.

Few months later, I wasn't feeling well and I had been diagnosed recently with vasovagal syncope. There were four of us working there - one went to buy dinner, one went for a home-patient swap and the other was suppose to stay with me since I didn't feel well earlier that day. The one who was suppose to stay with me decided that waiting for either of the other two to return was a waste of his time and life, so he left me alone. 

Didn't really think much about it except this guy cannot exactly be relied upon but other than that, nothing. I left the office to go to the bathroom, which was literally like 3-4 steps away from the office front door. Locked the office door since I was the only one around and then placed the key in my front pocket. Went to the bathroom and came back to my office and unlocked the door, only to find some random guy in a polo tee with a landyard and badge for the warehouse employees. 

At first I was stunned how a warehouse employee managed to gain access to my office when I key is needed in order to enter. The other thing was, the door was locked and I had to unlock it to enter. He started asking really weird questions about if I was alone in the office and such. I tried my best to talk him into coming outside of my office to the common area that had cameras and a security guard. 

The security guard did see me signal to her and she started to walk over when I started to back away from the door because he was walking out. Or so I thought! Apparently, while speaking to him, he did start to make his way out of the office to the lift lobby area. However, when I turned to continue speaking to him when he walked to the lift. the security guard just stopped in her tracks and start closing the metal gate that separated the main warehouse from our office space.

It frightened me even more!  I rushed into my office and locked the door because my thought at that time was the guard wasn't going to actually be there to help me! I figured she was too scared finding some random man on the second floor!

After rushing into my office and locking the door, I made my way to my desk to grab my phone to make a call to my colleague who went to buy dinner to quickly come back given the fright I just had. 
But once I reached my desk, my colleague burst through the door telling me to pack and leave. I thought for sure he saw the man! But it turns out no! He didn't see anyone, he just had a bad/uncomfortable feeling and rushed back. Didn't even buy dinner!

He did see the security guard running from the back of the main warehouse along the first floor to the second, she was shouting out to my colleague and her other security colleagues who were stationed downstairs that something happened to me upstairs.

Turns out no one saw anyone or anything! Not even the security, she freaked out because I was talking to something she could not see!! I had a really hard time believing that..well until she decided to show my the security footage from the second floor lift lobby. I seriously look like a weirdo talking to myself and running into my office.

That was the first incident, but unfortunately it was not the last. There was a certain amount of resistance and bravery built up after that encounter. But I was still scared, I didn't want to be alone in the office like ever again. 

Things quietened down for a couple of months before "she" appeared. This is what truly scared me the most and till today, I will not work beyond my office hours of even if it is office hours, I refuse to be alone in the office!!

I just came back from the hospital after a long day of repairs, decided to enter from the workshop instead of the office so I could drop off my test bag and tools. My colleague was sitting at his workbench and there was a lady standing in the middle of the workshop facing my colleague. I figured it was our new sales girl, Samantha. Upon walking in I said Hi! My colleague replied Hi, but the lady didn't say a word and just kept staring at my colleague. I thought to myself...weird walked right past her and said Hi again louder and closer to her. Till this day, I regret doing that!

Dropped my stuff at my bench and made my way to my desk in the office through the sliding door. Saw my manager and told him, hey our new sales girl is so rude. Suddenly this girl comes up from behind and introduces herself as Samantha. In my mind I like WAIT HOLD UP! If your Samantha then who is she?? Both my sales and manager stare at me like who??? I literally turned and pointed and was like her!! Who is she?? All three looked then looked at me...then SHE looked at me. It was so sudden but her face jerked in my direction and next thing I know before I could blink she was in my face. like IN MY FACE!! 

I fell backwards and no one knew what was happening. She disappeared but I was shaking. Every day since that day, she would appear and either stand beside or behind me and just stare at me. Sometimes there would be this icy cold feeling on my legs and I would look under my desk to rub my leg and she would be siting there with her knees bent and head down. I never sat long enough to see her look up at me. I probably would have fainted or something. 

Honestly, I will admit it was really hard to work and focus during that time. I know she didn't like me, she was always like mad at me and would stick to or be near my colleague. If he was out on-site for work or on leave or something, things would escalate and I would end of with bruises. They started off small and sort of insignificant. I figured I must have been clumsy and bumped myself somewhere. But where I was getting the bruises didn't make sense. Till one day there were nail marks, like scratches down the back of the wall behind me. One colleague told me based off of his knowledge, I was going to be injured from my neck to the lower back. 

Next day, I was thrown off my office chair onto the floor with a huge bruise and scratches down my back and on my arms. This was my turning point of fear! 

I spoke to my church priest and asked for anointed oil. I rubbed the oil on my arms and back where the scratches were. Previously, I wanted to respect the multi-cultural and multi-religious country we live in and not say any prayers in the office. But this was my tipping point of just telling everyone, you know that I'm sorry and I know not all believe but to be understanding because I was being affected and surprisingly, all were okay with it. I brought my bible and walked around reading my favorite verse for protection. 

A couple of days when by and I did not see her, but there was another lady I saw. This was wore light brown pants and a white shirt and her hair was in a high bun. She was always chanting. Turns out she was chanting my colleagues full, official name in numbers. Took me a while to figure it out but she was actually his guardian angel. She would speak in a beautiful sing-song voice. She was there to protect him because the other lady - who always wore a red dress. Was trying to hurt or harm one of my colleagues but I seemed to always be in the way and offered a type of protection for him. He is my best friend in office and I do pray for him and his family. My thoughts were maybe that's why I was targeted, one she knew I could see her and  two I was in her way!

I did still see her after that, the one in red, but she was always in the distance. I was so happy when we moved from there to our new office. This new place, is literally a new place. Recently built so there is no history or not much history. The air is lighter and everything just seems better. 

There are times when I go out or to certain places, I can still see "them" not the two ladies but just "them" in general. Never really paid attention to it before but my husband told me he suspected I could see "them" from how I would behave or greet people when walking but no one was there and it would increase during Hungry Ghost Festival (Ghost Month). 

I never paid attention before but aft that experience, I am way more in tuned to what and who is around me and who I actually interact with.

Friday, April 09, 2021

To the New Norm!

Have you ever been so exhausted that all you can look forward to is just crashing out on your bed? I felt that way last night! All I wanted to do since yesterday morning was just sleep. Waking up to my kid's cry for various reasons and then getting up once my husband wakes me to get ready for work, followed by, honestly, just an extremely exhausting and tiring day....

So my day started like any other at 6.45am, little one will wake up for his milk and then decides that it's play time and because he loves watching the sunrise and cars drive by - he sings his Good Morning Mr. Sun song on the top of his lungs. :) he made this song up himself, so it's a different version everyday.

Once the kids are ready then my husband and I will get ready for work. Send the kids to school, I get dropped off at the office then my husband heads out for his day. I know he does a lot of standing and walking being a field engineer. For me, I totally get it, I use to be a field engineer for 6yrs before being moved to a depot service center. Recently, since this whole pandemic, both my husband and I spend pretty much all our day rushing and running between the various hospitals, clinics and home patients making sure that all the equipment are working and if not, we get them up and running ASAP! Patient's very honestly cannot exactly wait for their treatment. 

For my husband it's more ventilators and patient monitors (SpO2, Pulse, HR, BP). For me, it's home dialysis patients, infusion systems in the hospitals and pharmacy equipment making the IV drips and various drops and OT sealant machines.

This whole pandemic just turned out word up-side down, made both of us super busy and we just feel like we missed so much of our boys growing up during the past year. When this APAC role opened up, I as so excited to apply and even more so when I the position. It may mean more hours sitting in front of a computer than I am use to, but it allows me to be at home more and have, maybe not a lot, but a little more time with my kids and that makes the whole process seem like such a blessing to me.

Lastly, a huge salute to every single person who was stuck at home and had to fully and completely work from home! I seriously and whole-heartedly salute each and every one of you. It is not easy to juggle remote working, kids remote home-based learning. Many times it literally removed that line that clearly distinguishes between  work and home life. That balance shifted dramatically for a lot of people. 

As I look around at places opening back up and restrictions being eased, I smile. Because I am happy, truly happy that things are heading in a direction of possibly being normal again. Maybe not exactly the same but in that direction. 

To the New Norm!